Hollands for her "intimidating style. Kinnaman says. I'll pause after a stressful call before sending off an e- mail or talking to someone about getting something done. But when women speak their minds, they're seen as harsh. Hollands counters: "Can you get over your DNA? This is a deeply embedded thing in them. Some women praised her for staying calm and using the word "disappointed. Hollands worried she had burned her bridges with a rising star. Norma Adjmi, the company's head of human resources, said that the change may not have been profound, but the executive came back having learned to treat others more gently.
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Adjmi herself was coached by Ms. Asked if she is now prepared to cry at meetings, Ms. Adjmi said: "I'd try not to. But I've tried to make myself more vulnerable, and it made my relationship with people better.
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Did it cost me something? Did it always work? No, but I felt better for trying.
Hollands says that about 25 of the 30 participants in Bully Broads have received better job reviews, more responsibility or promotions. Management experts agree with Ms. Hollands that expectations for office behavior are changing, but they are concerned that her advice reinforces a longstanding double standard at work. Joyce K. Fletcher, a professor at the Simmons Graduate School of Management in Boston, which offers the nation's only women-only M.
But women who talk that way, she said, are seen as lacking in confidence. It is the Catch of that corporate mindset that needs to change, she said, more than the personalities of individual women. Whether in love or work, it can seem these days that the most acceptable woman is the nice girl.
The woman whose playbook is "The Rules," the best- selling throwback guide to playing hard to get, stands the best chance of snaring her dream man. The spouse who cedes control to her husband, as prescribed in another best seller, "The Surrendered Wife," stands the best chance of keeping him. The cultural message sent to women "is confusing," said Jean Baker Miller, a professor of psychology and organizational training at Wellesley College.
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But if the women manage to get over their disbelief at being labeled bullies, acceptance of ladylike ways is harder. Michelle Whiting, 42, is one of the few women to enroll herself in Bully Broads. Despite her success, she knew she had a reputation for being tough. But Ms.
Whiting says she's "in crisis" now, having spent the last three days arguing with her boss over pay and other issues. But damn it, if I hadn't yelled at him, I would never have gotten this meeting to sort out the situation. You need an act of civil disobedience to get any attention at that firm.
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Whiting waffles about her commitment to niceness. Well, yeah. Same Game Different Rules.
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Jean Hollands. You are a smart, ambitious, no-nonsense businesswoman with her eye on the prize--a two-fisted, go-getter who always gets results. Your superiors openly praise your competence and brains, and you are beloved by your company's clients. Now for the bad news: those same qualities that, so far, have earned you so many kudos could very well destroy all your chances of future success.